Tags: daily living, disability, disability and love, disability and marriage, disability and relationships, disability self advocacy, interability marriage, Megan Cutter, vision
(Oh, no, don’t laugh… it’s no laughing matter ;o)
We’ve been slow to post video blogs, but, we’ve had a blast along the way. Here are a few outtakes from our adventures in Hatteras Island for our 5th year anniversary. Because of the incredible location, we had planned to video blogs for Love Rolls On, Cutter’s Word and Blooming Lotus Coaching. Since we were in the middle of the Nor’eastern with flooding, life just didn’t work out that way. Instead, we have an incredible story to tell for years to come.
Often, we are asked what makes our relationship successful. One of our secrets- smiles, giggles and crazy laughter. Sure, we’re a married couple, in addition to the joyful times, there are difficult obstacles, lack of communication, times when we don’t agree, and there are times where we are both quick to impatience and frustration.
Yet, we often have a blast with working, living, being with each other, pushing each other to new levels. Laughter is what brings us back together and back to the present moment.
Before Barton and I got married, I had mentioned that I had laughed more in that first year of knowing him than I had my entire life. And it’s true. Barton has this way to make everyone around him smile. And together, we always get ourselves in these situations where we wonder how did we get here/what just happened/are you serious?
This year has been all about transition, transition in our work, hopeful towards our dreams of beginning an adoption journey, taking steps outside of our comfort zone, and sharing our vision with others in new ways that neither one of us could have imagined.
While we don’t know what precarious situations we’ll get ourselves into next, one thing’s for sure, it’s an adventure, and we’re having a blast.
Tags: daily living, disability, disability and love, disability and marriage, disability and relationships, disability self advocacy, interability marriage, Megan Cutter, vision, Work, writing
When Barton & I both found out that several of our contracts are going to change (downgrade) this summer, let’s face it, we were both a bit terrified. We had just felt like we were making a dent in our debt, we added new morning assistance which is just as much as our mortgage, and we were making strides with where we were headed with long-term dreams and goals. But the only constant is life is change, and so as our contracts change, so must we.
Immediately, we began carving out two-hour blocks of time to meet with each other once a week, sometimes twice a week. This time was to brainstorm. Write email together. Make lists. Submit proposals. Talk about projects. Look at our vision.
We could sit and squander staying in one place, waiting for the changes to happen to us, or we could jump off the cliff and soar to new unknown sights. What was our vision of where we want to go? What were the first steps we needed to take to get there?
This week, as we drove an hour to horse therapy training, I was beginning to drown in money talk. How are we going to pay for this? What are we going to do about that? All we need is …. Somehow, I ended up on a new possibility that we don’
t know where will lead, and the potential is exciting. As I focused on this unknown opportunity, the shift from the negative to the positive was visible, to both of us.
This week, we had fun writing a new proposal, bouncing it back and forth over email, making edits here or there and discussing the angle that we wanted to present. We began building upon each other, and the momentum stayed strong until we were completed.
Transitions take us out of what is familiar and can send us into uncomfortable places. We’re finding deeper level of collaboration by carving out time to brainstorm and take steps together on finding new projects. What an exciting time looking towards the horizon. What will happen? I don’t know- it’s a mystery.
Tags: Blooming Lotus Coaching, disability, disability and love, disability and marriage, disability and relationships, disability self advocacy, Megan Cutter, Speaking Engagements
The past few days, we’ve been at the Community Resource Alliance (CRA) Conference: In Such a Time as This…Responding Wisely in Difficult Times held in Durham, NC. It felt familiar to be working on displays, printing literature and packing a supply box for the exhibit. I hadn’t realized that it had been almost five years since I had organized a trade show display. Before moving to Raleigh and working as a contracted writer, I organized trade shows for a manufacturing company in Alabama for almost seven years.
The difference: the conference Barton showcased Blooming Lotus Coaching, his life coaching practice. I also began speaking about my transition into the connection between writing and wellness. Over the weekend, while we were working on preparations for our display, I realized how much I missed working at trade shows. I was able to use my skills to bring all the tools and materials we would need, and being able to work on something that we are so passionate about makes it even more enjoyable.
When I worked organizing corporate trade shows, leads were talked about quite a bit, first with the number of people coming into a booth, then qualifying those leads that would turn into actual sales.
What was so wonderful about being at the CRA Conference with Barton is that it did not matter how many people stopped by our table. What was more important was who stopped by our table, and the depth of the conversations we were able to have in our space. Sometimes I would repeat what Barton said, but more often than not, I didn’t need to. I had great fun seeing Barton’s excitement about this new angle to his work, and how he communicated that joy to those around him.
In addition, we spoke in a panel discussion about self-advocacy alongside several other local leaders in the community. Afterwards, I realized I had spoken more than I thought I would as I reflected on how self-advocacy has been important, not just in my work with Barton or being married to Barton, but for each of us individually as well. I have found that the more I am able to speak up about what is and isn’t working efficiently, whether it’s in our community, at work, at home, our voices can break through limitations and obstacles.
What I love about speaking on a panel are listening to the other stories that people have to tell, the experiences in their lives may be so different and so similar to my own. Each one of us has a story to tell!